When You Are Grieving

The house is quiet in a way it never was. People have stopped calling, and you still reach for the phone. Nothing replaces the person you have lost. But for many Christians it helps to have something to hold on to: a sign, close to the skin, that love did not end and that you are not carrying this alone.

The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart.Psalm 34:18

When you want to keep them close

Some people wear a piece every day for years, and touch it without thinking when the missing comes back. A heart and a wing, a small angel, a birthstone for the month they were born: each one says the same thing, that they are gone, and not from your heart.

When you are holding someone else's grief

You will not find the right words, and nobody expects you to. A small piece in their hand says what a card cannot: I remember too, and you are not alone. Choose something gentle they can wear without explaining it to anyone.

If you do not know what to write on the card

Keep it short, and say their name. "I can't take this away. I just wanted you to have something to hold. I am praying for you, and I will keep saying [name]'s name."

When prayer is all that is left

Some days you will not manage a sentence. A rosary gives the hands something to do while the heart catches up. One bead, then another. Christians have prayed for their dead this way for centuries, in the hope of the resurrection.

I am the resurrection, and the life: he that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live.John 11:25

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Questions people bring to us

What can I wear to feel close to my mother after she died?

Many people choose something small they never need to take off: a heart and wing, a wing with her birthstone, or a cross she would have loved. What matters is that it brings her to mind, and turns that moment into a prayer for her.

What is a good Christian gift for someone who is grieving?

Something quiet that does not ask them to feel better. A small wing, a little angel or a rosary lets them know they are remembered. Add one handwritten line and say the name of the person who died.

Is it right for a Christian to wear jewelry in memory of someone?

Yes. Christians have long kept signs of those they love and prayed for their dead. A piece of remembrance is not a way of holding on to death: it is a way of holding on to hope in the resurrection.

What can I give a mother who has lost a baby?

Very little needs to be said, and nothing needs to be explained. A small pair of wings she can wear close, with the words "Your baby is loved and will not be forgotten", is often enough. Then keep showing up.

How do I get through the first Christmas without him?

Slowly, and without pretending. Some families light a candle at the table or say his name in grace. Wearing something that was chosen for him can give you somewhere to put your hand when the room gets loud.

All moments of life

Every piece arrives in a Bennett & Cross gift box, with free tracked shipping to the 21 countries we deliver to, 30-day returns on unworn pieces and a 1-year warranty against manufacturing defects. Our pieces are not blessed before they ship: many people ask a priest to bless theirs. Questions? Write to us, a real person answers within 24 hours, Monday to Friday.